Don't worry we're done doing anything

Don't worry, we're done. It doesn't seem to matter what we say to each other, you misunderstand me, and I appear to misunderstand you, or just get no communication back at all from you so guess and get it wrong.

Where I thought we had left it was that we would treat each other with kindness and politeness at work, not blank each other. When you blanked me, a couple of times I was very surprised because like you I thought we had sorted it. I racked my brains and texted you with what I thought was a helpful solution. When you resorted to "cold hearted to fend off hurt", that is what riled/riles me - because the coldness was cruel in my eyes. OK, if that is your coping mechanism, now I know, again not something you have said before.

You don't have to worry about personal ramifications. We're done, as I say. There's no personal left to whatever you would call the relationship there was between us.

You have made very clear before that doesn't cost you anything - but as I told you last time it has cost me everything. It's why I found trampling on my dignity hard to tolerate.

However, I'm not a gossip and I wouldn't bad mouth you. The most I would say if I was confronted about it was that we have fallen out. The reasons are nobody elses business in my eyes.

You always behave like I am a threat. Like I said, we are done, so you don't have to be afraid of me; but don't be dishonest about not welcoming the attention. You weren't leading me on, but you certainly did nothing to make me think my friendship meant little and that my gestures of affection were not welcomed, or indeed in any way unwelcome. Making people feel uncomfortable is not what I'm about, and I would have been mortified if I had thought you felt like that. None of my gestures of attention were romantic so don't rack your brains about any of them - i told you before doing anything like that so as not to compromise me. Initially, you seemed to react well in the pub when I told you and I was hopeful that you'd talk to me and things would be OK eventually. But I have said all this before. I'm afraid I'm not a mind reader and being ignored makes me very angry as you have found out.

Professional ramifications? Don't worry - it is unlikely to have any - I can't see that I would have any more than passing contact with you. I will keep it civil, and I can't see why you can't do the same.

I was hoping that if we ever ended up working on the same team we might be able to have a normal working friendship again. Like I said, I don't waste time mooning around after people who don't feel the same way. That seems unlikely now. I think the time for that may have passed a long time ago.

At any rate i will be civil (by which I mean treating you the same way I would another colleague - smiling saying hello, exchanging pleasantries, not treating you differently - the usual stuff). I would imagine you would be capable of doing the same? If not, then please don't blank me - just tell me how you want to play things, and then I won't have to get angry or frustrated - I will know exactly what to expect.